Three duets, four years, one son, and a shared discography that has quietly become one of the defining R&B romances of the decade.
Don Toliver and Kali Uchis began dating in 2020. By March 2024, they had a son. In between, they released three duets — and each one captures a different chapter of their relationship in something close to real time. This is that chronology.
The Background
**Kali Uchis** (born Karly-Marina Loaiza, July 17, 1994, Alexandria, Virginia) is a Colombian-American singer whose discography by 2026 includes five studio albums: *Isolation* (2018), *Sin Miedo (del Amor y Otros Demonios)* (2020), *Red Moon in Venus* (2023), *Orquídeas* (2024), and *Sincerely* (2025). She is one of the most distinctive R&B vocalists of her generation, blending bilingual vocal performances with Latin pop, neo-soul, and bossa nova textures.
**Don Toliver** (born Caleb Zackary Toliver, June 12, 1994, Houston, Texas) is six weeks older than Uchis. They are, almost exactly, the same age. The relationship became public via Wikipedia and gossip-press reports in 2020 — the year Don's *Heaven or Hell* debut and Uchis's *Sin Miedo* both arrived. They have not made a habit of public-facing romantic declarations. The music has done the work.
Duet One — "Drugs n Hella Melodies" (June 18, 2021)
The first public musical confirmation of the relationship came as the second single from Don's second album *Life of a Don*. "Drugs n Hella Melodies" was released June 18, 2021, four months before the album's October 8 drop.
Production: DJ Dahi, Loshendrix, and Sir Dylan. DJ Dahi — the producer behind Drake's "Worst Behavior" and Kendrick Lamar's "Money Trees" — anchors the song with a slow, spacious groove that lets Uchis's vocal float into the mix. Loshendrix and Sir Dylan add the textural detail.
The music video was filmed in Colombia — Uchis's ancestral homeland, and the inclusion was a deliberate gesture. Don entering Uchis's geographic and cultural world, rather than the inverse, established the register the relationship would maintain across all three duets: Don is the Texas rapper visiting; Uchis is the artist whose territory the song exists in. The song appears as track 8 on *Life of a Don*, sequenced as the album's romantic centerpiece between the trap maximalism of "Double Standards" and the Houston tribute "Swangin' on Westheimer."
The thematic conceit — the song's title pairs intoxication with melodic craft — frames their relationship as a creative collaboration first, a romantic one second. That is a register you do not usually hear in rap-adjacent love songs. It is a statement of artistic peership.
Duet Two — "4 Me" (February 15, 2023)
The second duet arrived nearly two years later as the lead single off Don's third album *Love Sick*, released February 15, 2023, nine days before the album. Production: Wheezy and Sean Momberger.
Wheezy is the Atlanta producer behind much of Future's catalog and a Don regular ("New Drop" on *Hardstone Psycho*, "Embarrassed" on *Love Sick* deluxe, "Rosary" on *Octane*). On "4 Me," he and Momberger build a beat that samples Beenie Man's "Girls Dem Sugar" — a 2000 dancehall classic. The sample choice is deliberate: it places the duet in the Caribbean musical lineage Uchis has spent her career engaging with.
Sequenced as track 4 on *Love Sick* — earlier in the album than "Drugs n Hella Melodies" was on *LOAD* — "4 Me" functions as the romantic vow at the heart of an album titled, literally, *Love Sick*. Don announced the album on Valentine's Day 2023; "4 Me" landed the next day. The timing was the message.
If "Drugs n Hella Melodies" was a creative collaboration framed as romance, "4 Me" is a romance framed as a vow. The thematic shift — from peership to commitment — tracks the two-and-a-half years between the songs.
Duet Three — "Fantasy" (March 3, 2023)
Sixteen days after "4 Me," Uchis released her third album *Red Moon in Venus*. Track-listing position: track 7. Title: "Fantasy." Featured artist: Don Toliver.
This is the only one of the three duets where Uchis is the lead artist. The flip matters. Across "Drugs n Hella Melodies" and "4 Me," Don was the host and Uchis was the guest. On "Fantasy," the polarity reverses — and the song's lush, chamber-pop textures are unmistakably hers. Don's vocal performance is more restrained than on the prior two duets; he is operating inside her aesthetic rather than asking her to operate inside his.
Sixteen days. Two albums. Three duets across two years. By March 2023, Don and Uchis had effectively collapsed the boundaries between their discographies.
The Pregnancy and the Birth
In January 2024, Uchis announced her pregnancy through her own music-video release — a private artistic gesture that doubled as a public reveal. She was approximately seven months along.
In March 2024, their son was born. The name has not been publicly disclosed.
"Deep in the Water" (March 14, 2024)
On March 14, 2024 — within days of his son's birth — Don released the music video for "Deep in the Water," the second single from *Hardstone Psycho* (which would land June 14). The track's production team — Buddy Ross, OhRoss, IWantDior, Broadday, and 206Derek — built a soft, elegiac instrumental that sits in stark contrast to the rage-trap aggression of "Bandit," the album's lead single.
The music video, per Billboard's reporting at the time, included a sneak peek of the newborn. It was the first public visual of Don and Uchis's son. *Hardstone Psycho* is an album about velocity and aggression. "Deep in the Water" — Volume C, Twin Peaks — is the album's emotional center, and Don made it the visual vehicle for fatherhood. The song is not a duet. Uchis does not appear on it. But it is, structurally, a Kali song without Kali — a track about the specific water of family that the relationship had brought him to.
What Comes Next
There is no fourth Don × Kali duet on *Octane* (2026). There is no public confirmation of one on the horizon. But the cross-references continue: Uchis's *Sincerely* (2025) reportedly contains Don-themed material *(verify)*, and Don's *Octane* contains, in the closer "Sweet Home," what reads like a meditation on arrival — a thematic register the *Heaven or Hell*-era Don could not have written.
Three duets, two albums between them, a son, and a continued mutual presence in each other's discographies without overexposure. Whether or not a fourth duet ever lands, the existing trilogy — "Drugs n Hella Melodies," "4 Me," "Fantasy" — is already one of the decade's most musically intimate love stories.
